Q: I have a question about sexuality. How do you see homosexuality in spiritual terms? Why do you feel we have this karma? Is it a natural thing?
A: There are probably as many combinations of reasons why one person is gay while another is straight as there are people in the world. Before I launch into a spiritual examination of the subject, it's wise to ponder any unconscious assumptions we may have picked up from the world we live in about what it means to be gay.
For example, in reading between the lines, I sense a negative tone attached to the word karma: You seem to be implying that being gay is a hardship as opposed to a blessing or simply one aspect of who you are. (Why do some people have the karma of being born blonde?)
In my view, being gay is not a problem, but living in a world that has blindly adopted hateful views of anyone different from the mainstream can certainly pose some intense emotional challenges. In other words, being gay isn't a problem - dealing with hateful homophobics is.
It can take great self-acceptance, independence and courage to admit to ourselves the ways that we are different from most, especially when the ways we are different are taboo. Heck, I'm not out as a psychic to 90% of the people I know, and though Bible-thumpers would tell us we're both going to hell, I don't think being psychic is as irreligious as being gay. (Is it?) By the way, the Bible condemns all sex that is not for procreative purposes as sinful, so if the Bible is right, 99.5% of God's children are in big trouble.
In most non-Christian societies, homosexuality wasn't taboo at all. In fact, in many tribal cultures, homosexuals were considered spiritually gifted, and were often chosen to be shamans and healers. For more information on the historical, economic and sociological influences affecting the world's views and our own psyches regarding homosexuality, I highly recommend some progressive, open-minded research. Before I leave practical issues behind, I must state that I do believe homosexuality is indeed biologically natural. If one simply studies the behavior of animals and human beings throughout history and around the world, this becomes patently clear.
Regarding karma, reincarnation and homosexuality, there are some common spiritual explanations for why one person may be born heterosexual and another born gay. The most common idea involves the genders embodied in past lives. If Roger was female in all of his past lives, and this is his first life as a male, it's possible that he will bring through lots of feminine energy and be attracted to males as he was before. Some even believe that homosexual lives are intermediary or transitional stages between one gender and another.
In other words, whenever any of us shift from being predominately one gender to the other in a reincarnation cycle, we may spend one or more lives as homosexuals, or at least have many traits typically associated with the other gender. The excellent reincarnation research of Dr. Ian Stevenson supports this theory.
It is also possible for spirit attachment to influence sexual preference. Let me offer an example to illustrate this phenomenon:
When she was a child, Linda was a typical little girl, but in her mid twenties, she began to walk, talk and act like a man. She began to feel uncomfortable as a woman, so she decided to shed her femininity and develop her masculine side. Even though she had had a number of fulfilling relationships with boys, at this time she also woke up to the understanding that she was gay.
What she didn't realize consciously is that she was under the influence of a male earthbound spirit who was trying to attach to her aura, and by influencing her thoughts and feelings, he was gaining control over her. Over time, the spirit gained more and more influence, did become attached, and began to express himself and live through her. Once this spirit was released, she went back to feeling like her old self again.
This is of course not always what is happening when someone decides to develop more of their masculine or feminine side, but it does occur. Usually in these cases, there is a marked change at some point. However, since spirits can attach before birth and can even travel through lifetimes with us, sometimes these changes took place before conscious memory. I mention this only because it is a real phenomenon and may help some people who are struggling with their sense of identity.
I do NOT wish to imply that homosexuality is pathological. The way to determine if your sexual orientation (or any other trait) is a true expression of your own nature or is somehow artificial is to ask yourself what feels like the real you. If you are being influenced by outside social pressures or invisible entities, there will be some part of you that is forever struggling to set the real you free.
Being gay in today's world obviously poses some huge spiritual challenges, and many times, these are related to lessons that the incarnating spirit chose to work on in this lifetime. Usually incarnating spirits choose to be gay or otherwise different from the mainstream in order to work on loving and accepting themselves as they really are.
There is a constant underlying issue of love versus fear and inclusion versus exclusion here. This is at the heart of the whole conflict between gay rights and the religious conservatives who condemn homosexuality as sinful. Controversies like this make us all question what we've been taught about what is right and wrong, and ultimately they push us to dig through all the surface details in search of Truth and Love.
At this time in history in particular, I believe gays are blessing the world by raising some very important questions and issues. Thanks to the social revolutionaries who are constantly prodding brainwashed fanatics to open their minds and hearts, humankind is evolving. These days, we are all exposed to foreign beliefs, traditions, mores and ideas as never before. This pushes us to question what we've been taught, which leads to an evolution of consciousness.
As false, destructive mores break down, everyone is freed to express more of their true natures. Gay rights' activists in particular are stretching the world to new levels of unconditional love and personal freedom.
Personally, I am behind whoever is for LOVE. I don't care if they're gay, straight, bi, celibate or wildly promiscuous, so long as they are really coming from a place of love. As I see it, the fewer rules and restraints we put on love and the more love there is in the world, the better. I'm thrilled that every generation is blessed with a good number of non-conformists, artists, writers, gays, thinkers, psychics, freaks and misfits with the courage to question the establishment, own who they are, and let their lights shine. Without them, I don't think the world would be a very fun or interesting place to live in.
God loves everyone of all races, genders, religions and sexual orientations. (Heck - God even loves telemarketers.) We must trust that people are born as they are for a good reason, and so long as they do no harm to others, it is not for us to judge or try to control them. If we truly have faith in a higher plan or power, we must trust that we have all been made the way we are for a good reason.